Conflicts Can Be Eliminated

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When we disagree with someone, we frequently get worked up over not just the incident that happened, but the judgments we made about the situation and the person, the feelings that were evoked in us and the story we make up about what it all means. Take ownership for your own feelings. The other person didn’t “make you feel” a particular way. They did what they did. You chose to feel the way you did.


We often assume we know what the other person was intending to do ‘to us’. The only thing we really know is the reaction we had to the other person’s behavior. Recognize that they may not have ‘meant’ to disrespect (or hurt, or ignore or control) you. Also recognize that if you are the perpetrator, just because your motive was innocent, that doesn’t negate the feelings the other person experienced.


Imagine that any complaint (yours or another’s) is really a request in disguise. Next time you catch yourself complaining, stop then ask for it! Make the request to someone who has the power to grant it. Complaining or making requests to anyone else won’t get your problem solved.


Open the dialog with “I’d like to say something, but I’m afraid that I’ll… or you’ll…” You’ll be surprised at the impact that sharing your vulnerability will have on the receptivity of the other person. You’ll also be surprised at how easily the important message will now come out.


Recognize that you may have something to do with the continued existence of the problem. Figure out what actions you can take to solve your own dilemma.


Forgiveness is not condoning or even accepting. Forgiving someone in your heart who has ‘wronged’ you, just releases your agony. It does nothing for them.

Unhappy In Bed? Should You Talk to Your Partner?

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Are you in a relationship? If you are, are you currently happy with your sex life or the level of intimacy that you and your partner share? If not, you may be unsure as to how to proceed. You may be interested in talking to your partner, but you may also be nervous and fearful at the same time.

So, is it a good idea to let your partner know that you are unhappy in bed? Of course it is. A dull or boring sex life can have a negative impact on a relationship. It is also important to note that an open line of communication is an important component of a happy and healthy relationship, both in the physical and emotional sense. If you cannot talk to your partner about sex, how do you honestly expect your relationship to continue on?

As it was previously stated, communication is key to a successful relationship and not just in the bedroom. If you can talk to your partner about sex, you can likely talk to them about anything. This means that your relationship is less likely to suffer from a lack of communication or poor communication. This may translate into less arguments and more time in the bedroom.

Another reason why you should talk to your partner if you are currently unhappy with the intimacy received is because it will improve. The last thing that your partner wants to hear is that they aren’t providing you with enough pleasure and excitement. As soon as your wants, needs, and desires are openly discussed, your intimacy levels may skyrocket. It is also important to note that you will eventually end up being more satisfied in bed.

Another reason why all intimacy problems should be discussed with your partner is because they too can be satisfied more. When you do bring about the discussion of sex but sure not to just focus on your wants, needs and desires. Ask your partner for input as well. They may have their own suggestions. To have a happy and healthy relationship, as well as sex life, both of you need to be satisfied. Pleasure should not be one sided only.

Although there are a number of pros and cons to talking about your unhappiness in bed with your partner, there are also a number of downsides to doing so as well. One of those being difficulty. For many men and women, the subject of sex can be discomforting to talk about. Add in the fact that you are expressing displeasure or the need for change and an uncomfortable situation may ensure.

It is also important to note that talking about your unhappiness in bed can also have an adverse, negative effect on your relationship. Yes, it is important to have an open line of communication in any serious relationship, but there are some things that people just do not want to hear. Do not be surprised if your partner gets defensive when talking to you. In fact, you may want to prepare for it. It is natural for both men and women to get defensive when they are essentially being told that their sex isn’t good enough and needs improvement.

If you do decide to talk to your partner about improving your intimacy in the bedroom, just be sure to use caution and your best judgment. Do not criticize your partner and try to not make them feel inadequate. Gently approaching the situation has a number of benefits, including the elimination of hurt feelings. It also better allows you to have an open, honest, and mature discussion.

As a reminder, there are a number of pros and cons to talking to your partner about your unhappiness with your intimacy. With that being, the end result is often well worth the discussion. Just remember to be careful about your approach, as how you start the conversation and what you say during it may have a significant impact on the outcome.


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Natural Remedies for Acne

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Acne is a skin condition that millions of individuals deal with, sometimes on a daily basis. Although acne is not a life threatening condition, it can cause great stress. Acne, especially when constantly touched or picked at, can also lead to scaring or even an infection. For that reason, those suffering from acne often look for different ways to seek relief.

When it comes to seeking relief from acne, there are a large number of over-the-counter products that claim to provide relief. In addition to simply just appearing on store shelves, a large number of over-the-counter acne medications are also appearing on our television screens and with famous celebrities standing behind the products. Of course, if you are suffering from acne you can give these over-the-counter products a try, but it is also important to know that you do have a number of different options. These options involve the use of natural remedies and home remedies, which are a safer way to treat acne, as they do not rely on the use of potentially dangerous chemicals.

There are a number of natural remedies for acne that rely on the use of food. One of those remedies is that of lettuce. Saturating lettuce in water for about an hours worth of time will result in a special mixture. This mixture should then be applied to the skin, acting as a rinse. This approach is a nice and easy way to get rid of unwanted acne.

Fresh lime juice and milk are another natural remedy for getting rid of acne that comes highly rated and recommend. With this natural remedy for acne, boil a half of glass of milk. Once that milk has cooled, add in about the same amount of lime juice. You can then use a cloth to apply the mixture onto your acne infected area. As an important reminder, wait until the boiled milk has cooled to an ideal level to promote comfort and prevent burns.

For a small area of acne, ripe tomatoes can be used. For this home remedy, cut a ripe tomato in half and place the inside, wet portion of the tomato on the pimple or pimples. Leave it on for about an hours worth of time and then wash off. A similar approach to this natural remedy and one that still comes highly rated and recommended involves the use of tomato paste.

As previously stated, those suffering from severe acne put themselves at risk for developing an infection or scaring. Those who are known to touch or pick at their pimples are first advised to stop. That is the best way to keep your skin healthy. With that being said, Aloe Vera can also provide relief. When applied to the affected area, Aloe Vera can help to promote healthy healing on the skin.

As outlined above, there are a number of different natural remedies and home remedies for those suffering from acne, like you. As for why these natural remedies are advised, there are a number of different reasons. If you have ever tried over-the-counter skincare products before, you likely already know that they can be costly. Imagine that cost added up overtime. It is also important to note that many over-the-counter acne treatment products have poor reviews. In fact, did you know that some products actually cause users more problems with rashes and acne than before? That is why many are now starting to rely on natural remedies instead, as they are affordable, easy to implement, and safe.


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Compatible With My Boyfriend

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We could all make our lives so much easier if we simply picked the right people to be part of our lives. The truth is, other than your family, this really isn’t all that hard to do. The first thing you have to do to be able to say you are compatible with my boyfriend, is to pick the right boyfriend, and to do that you need to know who you really are.

We should all take time occasionally, to take a long hard look at who we are and try to see ourselves as others see us. This is the best way to ensure that anyone you meet will have similar interests and attributes. After all, if we don’t really know who we are at the core, and we are only familiar with who we want to be, it’s going to be virtually impossible to find someone we can get along with for the long term.

In order for you to really get in touch with the inner you, you should take some time and write out the things you are interested in. Are you interested in children, the environment? Do you like to shop for shoes, or are you more interested in learning a foreign language and doing volunteer work. There is no right or wrong it’s simply a way to identify your core values so you can find someone else with similar core values. That will ensure true compatibility.

After you’ve done your own personal assessment, it’s time to write down what traits you’d like in a potential partner. Do you care if your mate doesn’t share your interest in the homeless? Will you be content to go off and do your charity work while your partner stays home watching t.v.? It’s very easy to overlook these issues particularly if you find someone who you are very physically attracted to, but it’s important that you pay attention. Physical attraction will fade and what you’ll be left with are the core values of this person and if they don’t jibe with yours, the two of you will struggle in your relationship.

Of course a great way to ensure that you meet someone with similar qualities is to try and meet someone at the events where you are doing the things you like to do. For example, if you do charity work for the environment you might be able to meet someone in the same organization, that way you know the two of you share at least one thing in common.

One word of caution though, you don’t want a carbon copy of you. That would get boring. What you do want is a little overlap but also plenty of differences. It’s nice at the end of the day for both of you to be able to share with the other your unique experiences of the day. If you have some things unique to each of you, you can share that with your partner which will create a new level of bonding.

Use these tips as a way to make sure that you can say you are compatible with my boyfriend. Compatibility is a wonderful thing in a relationship. Don’t think that the two of you have to be verbally sparring and at odds all the time to keep the relationship interesting. Having someone who ‘gets you’ is an amazing way to go through life. Try it, you’ll like it!

Canker Sore Remedies – Avoid Certain Foods

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If you have canker sores you will definitely be looking around for effective canker sore remedies. Canker sores can be very painful and may be triggered by certain foods, stress, or injury to the inside of your mouth.

Foods that are acidic and can trigger a canker sore are foods like lemons, oranges, pineapples, figs, apples, tomatoes or strawberries. Other causes may be dental problems like a sharp tooth or ill-fitting dentures. Sometimes the friction from braces can cause an outbreak, also. Acidic juices and carbonated drinks can also contribute to the formation or exacerbation of canker sores.

There are two types of canker sores, simple and complex. Simple canker sores are caused by the foods or dental problems discussed above. Complex canker sores are usually caused by some underlying medical condition that causes immune system depletion like Celiac disease or Crohn’s. Vitamin and mineral deficiencies play a major role in the development of canker sores.

Some people may think that canker sores and cold sores are one and the same. This is not true. Cold sores are caused by a virus and develop on the outside of the mouth. canker sores develop on the inside of the mouth. Though canker sores and cold sores can be equally as painful, they are not the same thing and both require different treatment.

If you have a painful sore or sores in your mouth, feel a burning sensation or rough spot develop before the sores appear, have a low grade fever, swollen lymph glands or feel sluggish, you may be fairly certain you have canker sores.

When you have an active canker sore you will need to steer clear of the types of foods we discussed earlier because they will not only cause you pain when you eat them but they may even make your condition worse.

If the sores do not start to heal on their own in a few days or you cannot eat or drink, you should not hesitate to see your dentist to receive canker sore remedies. You will also want to do yourself a favor and get a toothbrush with a soft bristle. Keeping your mouth clean is a good way to help the canker sores heal up quicker.

Some other symptoms that should prompt you to see your dentist are unusually large sores, sores that spread, sores that last more than three weeks, sores that cause severe pain, or you have a high fever.

There is no cure and canker sores can happen to anyone but with care and learning to avoid certain acidic or even spicy foods you may be able to reduce their frequency and severity. If the pain is too severe your doctor or dentist should be willing to prescribe you with a pain med that is effective in reducing the amount of pain you are feeling.

Over the counter canker sore remedies are available and may help with the healing of your canker sores. Over the counter pain medications may also help so you won’t need to ask for a prescription from your doctor or dentist.

Building Effective Relationships

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Society is defined as a web of associations, which requires all parties to work and contribute their share in order to achieve a common goal. Having a relationship that is good, where cooperation and respect are manifested, can make society work better. In this way every member works for the good of the whole. This can only be attained with effective and efficient relationships.

The easiest way to appreciate what is significant to another party is to ask them what they want and listen to what they have to say. Effective relationships require parties to openly convey their feelings and positions on all matters important to the relationship.

In order to build a more effective relationship, parties must treat each other with respect. We can show respect just by listening to the other party and by trying genuinely to comprehend how they function. This also means respecting yourself.

One more key area in forming an effective relationship is to tackle differences of the other party openly. Work towards a win-win solution for both parties. Developing an atmosphere where the other party can express their feelings when they need to.

Parties should be aware that certain things exist naturally but should be controlled in any dealings in any relationship. Human nature is one. Some of these things found in a relationship also include a history of stereotyping or mistrust, blaming the other person or party for a strained relationship, excluding the other party’s feelings when focusing on a task, no clear and defined objectives, roles and expectations of each party in a relationship is also unclear.

Relationships are important to anyone, addressing issues and problems right away is a must to further improve the relationship. As they say ‘No man is an Island’. Working together works for the whole – and that is what is most important.

Modern approaches to skin wrinkle treatment

From old wives tales to home crafted traditional concoctions, many have come up with a variety of skin care treatments that have been effective and not, but nowadays, one can be sure about the efficacy of modern approaches to skin wrinkle treatment.

If one can say that modern-day skin wrinkle treatments are very expensive, think again.

Today’s modern technology not only gives focus to how it can make breakthroughs effective, but also to make it more affordable so that it would be marketable and appeal to the public.

Lasers, one of humankind’s breakthroughs in light amplification that has found a lot of uses and sometimes unthinkably and as we may not know it, have important uses in our day to day life.

For quite some time now, lasers have also carved a niche in skin wrinkle treatment and there are several laser-related processes that helps in combating wrinkles.

One of the most common uses of the laser treatment for wrinkles is laser resurfacing, where physicians use instruments such as carbon dioxide and erbium lasers.

This is a somewhat similar process as dermabrasion, where a treating physician uses a rotary instrument to ‘sand’ the skin to achieve a certain smoothness, the only difference is that laser technology is employed to facilitate the treatment process.

The edge of laser resurfacing over dermabrasion, however, is that it has a greater reliability, precision and less risk.

In this process, the laser is passed several times over the skin area to be treated until the peeling reaches the middle of the dermis the second layer of the skin, which helps stimulate the body’s natural collagen synthesis, causing the sagging skin and wrinkles to plump up and make it appear firmer and smoother.

Some medical practitioners perform laser resurfacing under conscious sedation, where a patient remains awake and receives intravenous medicines to ease and calm the pain.

This is also combined with the application of topical anesthetic creams or injectable anesthetics like lidocaine.

The procedure may be repeated several times to achieve desired results, however, there is still the risk of causing permanent color change or scarring.

Another newer laser treatment procedure is fractional resurfacing, where newer and enhanced laser apparatus work through a modification of traditional laser resurfacing.

This form of treatment does not affect the whole skin but instead only evenly on evenly spaced spots surrounded by undamaged skin.

With fractional resurfacing, healing is much faster than the traditional laser resurfacing treatment but with less downtime as a result.

As with other laser treatments, several treatment sessions are needed to achieve desired results.

There is also another laser treatment called non-ablative laser resurfacing where modified and intensified lasers stimulate collagen synthesis under the skin without peeling or damaging the epidermis.

Studies have concluded that non-ablative laser resurfacing can actually improve fine wrinkles, though not as much a laser resurfacing.

All the same, several treatment sessions are also required to achieve significant results and the procedures are almost painless with little or no redness, downtime or peeling after the laser treatments.

Another process that involved heat and light is heat and radio frequency treatment is another variation of non invasive facial rejuvenation is by heating the skin tissue using radio frequency-inducing devices and infrared light sources.

As of today, techniques are still being developed to better improve the treatment process, but most, if not all results, have actually yielded positive effects and have been described to be safe, as well as produce a significant and lasting improvements, though not as much as surgical techniques like facelifts and plastic surgery.

All the same, as long as there is the desire to look for better alternatives and processes to counter the effects of wrinkles, all these modern approaches to skin wrinkle treatment will continue to produce more happy people in the days to come.

What Are Isometric Exercises For Stomach Muscles

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When exercising, or thinking about getting involved in an exercise program, there are many words that may be said that are unfamiliar to many people. This can cause confusion and may frustrate a person who is trying to understand and apply different aspects of excersising. For instance, what are isometric exercises for stomach muscles? To make is simple, these exercises are simply flexing, or applying force to the particular group of muscles, they do not involve the use of weights. The reason people enjoy doing this type of exercise is that they can be done anywhere because no special equipment is needed in order to perform them; although often times the use of a wall comes in handy.

Crunches and sit-ups are popular forms of isometric exercises for stomach muscles. Besides being able to perform them anywhere, they are also a convenient form of exercise because they can be fit into practically anyone’s schedule, the reason for this is because isometric exercises do not take much time to complete them. The range of movement with the isometric exercises is very limited and the amount of time to complete one set is such a short amount of time, usually between 6-8 seconds per repetition, it does not take too much time. However, these movements only work isolated parts of the body and therefore more then one exercise is needed to work out different muscles groups within the stomach.

Breathing also seems to be a factor in isometric exercises for stomach muscles. As a person breathes slowly in and out, they are contracting the stomach muscles, which is the point of isometric exercises.

While studying isometric exercises, a person will find out that these particular exercises are not good for people who have a high blood pressure since they will raise the blood pressure while the moves are being performed. A person will also be advised that in order to achieve maximum results in any exercise plan, isometric exercises should be combined with strength training exercises for the stomach muscles.

Besides crunches and sit-ups there are many other forms of isometric exercises for stomach muscles, and they are very easy to find on the internet. There are many sites that will provide step by step instructions on how to perform these exercises and give the advantages of doing them. Again, keep in mind that a well-balanced exercise plan combines several different types of moves that work different muscle groups within the stomach.

There are obviously many advantages and disadvantages of performing isometric exercises for stomach muscles. Being able to perform them anywhere will no equipment and being able to fit them into a busy schedule are the main advantages, the disadvantages of course being they are very limited in the muscles they work. For some people however, just that extra boost of strength is all they need and isometric exercises alone will work great for them. For those that need more work on their stomach, combining isometric exercises along with weight training exercises for the stomach is the best plan.

Natural Allergy Remedies

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Are you an individual who suffers from allergies? If so, you may be looking for ways to seek relief. Most individuals turn to over-the-counter medications. While these medications do work, in most cases, there are many individuals who are concerned with exactly what it is they are putting into their bodies. If you are one of those individuals, you will want to continue reading on. Below, a number of natural allergy remedies are highlighted below. In addition to being considered natural allergy remedies, many are also known as home remedies for allergies.

One natural allergy remedy that comes highly rated and recommended is that of apple cider vinegar. Often times, the only complaint that most have with apple cider vinegar is the taste. However, it is not only known as a natural remedy to treat allergies. Many also use it to assist with weight loss, high blood pressure, and high cholesterol. Most individuals using apple cider vinegar to treat allergies recommend taking two tablespoons a day. Mixing it with juice or water is also advised, which can assist with taste issues.

Red clover is another natural allergy remedy. What is nice about using red clover to treat your allergy symptoms is all of the options that you have, as red clover is available in a wide range of formats. With that being said, most allergy sufferers recommend red clover tea. Red clover wine and red clover herbal supplements, which come in the format of pills, are also available for sale both on and offline.

Carefully choosing the foods in which you consume is another natural way to reduce or treat the symptoms of allergies. Lime squeezed into water has been known to assist those with allergies. Vegetable juices and bananas also come highly rated and recommended.

Acupuncture is also an ideal way to treat and relieve the symptoms of allergies. According to WebMD, a trusted medical website, acupuncture helped to reduce all allergy symptoms in a study performed on twenty-six patients. If you are interested in giving acupuncture a try, consider contacting your local health spas, as many offer alternative healing approaches. If acupuncture is not a service offered, you should be provided with contact information for another local practitioner.

In addition to the above mentioned natural allergy remedies, there are also steps that you can take to prevent the onset of allergies or steps that you can take to reduce these symptoms. Most of these helpful tips can still be considered natural allergy remedies, but in a different sense. Also, these additional tips, a few of which are outlined below, are for just about anyone suffering from allergies, as they are affordable and easy to implement.

For pet allergies, stay a safe distance away from pets. With that said, if you are a pet owner who cannot bear to part with your beloved pets, be sure to keep them out of your bedroom, as this is where you spend most of your time.

Since mold is a common trigger factor for allergies, it is important to take steps to remove mold from your home or prevent it from growing. Limiting the humidity in your home is a great way to reduce or completely prevent mold growth. Use a bathroom fan or open a bathroom window when taking a shower, to reduce mold growth in the bathroom. If you already have mold in your home, contact a professional to inquire about a mold removal. Until that time comes, be sure to avoid areas in your home where mold is present.

The above mentioned natural allergy remedies are just a few of the many that allergy sufferers recommend, but they are a few of the most popular approaches taken. As a reminder, it is important to remember that natural remedies and home remedies work differently on different individuals. If you do not see the success that you had hoped for, not all hope is lost, as there should be another natural allergy remedy out there that can provide you with relief.


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Committed Relationships – How Do You Achieve Commitment In A Relationship

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We all know people in committed relationships and how often we have envied them. What do we mean by committed? Most couples are together because of a sexual attraction or shared interests. They do not start by being deeply committed to one another – that comes with time. When you have been together for years and have made a great effort to share all sides of your life i.e. the good times and the bad, you will share a deep and meaningful bond which is difficult to break.

People believe that relationships are easy. This is probably due in part to Hollywood promoting this fallacy but it is a pack of lies. There is nothing easy when it involves a man and a woman. The very fact that they are different sexes makes communication difficult before you add in cultural and social differences that may be present! When two people first meet they are in what is often called the fantasy stage. Everything is wonderful, he or she is the best thing that could have happened to you. Sex is great and you cannot get enough of each other. This period can last any length of time but it tends to have passed before you reach your first year anniversary.

By then you have started to get used to each other and perhaps take one another for granted. You are no longer brainwashed by the huge sexual attraction and his or her habits which you used to find endearing are now just annoying. You may have heard the phrase the honeymoon period is over, well this describes just this stage in any relationship.

But it gets worse, you could move onto a phase where all you appear to do is fight and argue. You have forgotten the fantasy stage and now your partner just irritates you. What is actually happening is that there is a power struggle going on with neither partner willing to give ground. People who survive this phase do so by learning how to communicate. This is something everyone of us needs to do and do properly.

Unfortunately effective communication skills are rarely thought at school or in the home. It is a real pity as good communication would save many relationships. It isn’t difficult to learn – by reading the Magic of Making up your skills at communicating will improve dramatically.

Once you get past the power struggle you will hopefully, if you are lucky, enter the committed phase of your relationship. Now you have been through so much together and survived. Your relationship is stronger as a result of the trials and arguments.

You love each other and have accepted the differences between you. Yes you know your partner has faults and irritating habits and they know you have as well but you both accept these. To have committed relationships is to enjoy deep love and it is an aim that all couples should strive for.