Do you ever look at a loving, committed couple and with that you could have that kind of commitment with someone? How do achieve that sort of commitment in a relationship? Commitment takes time; it doesn’t happen instantly when you first start dating. Most people will begin dating due to a sexual attraction and/or shared interests and the relationship starts at as a fun, caring relationship. It isn’t until a couple has been together for some times that they really become committed to one another. When you have experienced many different times in life together, both good and bad, you develop a special bond that can then last a lifetime.
Relationships are difficult and anyone that tries to tell you any different is lying. Even the best of relationships have their rough patches from time to time. Men and women are completely different and will not agree on absolutely everything, so the ‘perfect’ relationship 100% of the time is virtually impossible. Along with the differences between sexes, there can also be cultural and social differences that can affect a relationship. When a couple first meet and first start dating everything seems perfect. Sex is great and you want to spend every waking moment together. This ‘new relationship’ period can last quite a long time but is usually passing by the time you have dated for one year.
By the time you have been dating for a year you are becoming more accustomed to one another and may even begin to take one another for granted. Some things that you once adored about your partner might now be annoying and although sex is still good it has lost the ‘fireworks’ it had at the beginning. It is at this time that they honeymoon period is over.
It is at this point in the relationship where you will truly find out whether this relationship will last. When you move past the honeymoon period you might move onto a period where you begin to fight and argue a lot. You begin to irritate each other and neither one of you will want to give in and admit they are wrong. You need to learn to communicate with one another to survive this phase of a relationship. Unfortunately, good communication skills are something that we are not taught at school and it’s not always something that we learn from our parents either. These skills are much needed skills in a relationship though and without good communication a relationship can fail fast. If you can learn to communicate with one another then you can get past this difficult stage of your relationship.
If you survive this difficult stage of your relationship then you should be very committed to one another by now. You have lived through the highs (the honeymoon stage) and the lows (the fighting stage) and you have survived. Your relationship is now much stronger and committed. You have come to know one another intimately and you have accepted any differences that you have. You have accepted each other’s faults and you have made compromising on those things you don’t agree on.
When you reach this ‘committed’ stage there is no reason why your relationship can’t last a lifetime. When you love someone enough to commit to them then you can be very happy together for the rest of your lives.