We could all make our lives so much easier if we simply picked the right people to be part of our lives. The truth is, other than your family, this really isn’t all that hard to do. The first thing you have to do to be able to say you are compatible with my boyfriend, is to pick the right boyfriend, and to do that you need to know who you really are.
We should all take time occasionally, to take a long hard look at who we are and try to see ourselves as others see us. This is the best way to ensure that anyone you meet will have similar interests and attributes. After all, if we don’t really know who we are at the core, and we are only familiar with who we want to be, it’s going to be virtually impossible to find someone we can get along with for the long term.
In order for you to really get in touch with the inner you, you should take some time and write out the things you are interested in. Are you interested in children, the environment? Do you like to shop for shoes, or are you more interested in learning a foreign language and doing volunteer work. There is no right or wrong it’s simply a way to identify your core values so you can find someone else with similar core values. That will ensure true compatibility.
After you’ve done your own personal assessment, it’s time to write down what traits you’d like in a potential partner. Do you care if your mate doesn’t share your interest in the homeless? Will you be content to go off and do your charity work while your partner stays home watching t.v.? It’s very easy to overlook these issues particularly if you find someone who you are very physically attracted to, but it’s important that you pay attention. Physical attraction will fade and what you’ll be left with are the core values of this person and if they don’t jibe with yours, the two of you will struggle in your relationship.
Of course a great way to ensure that you meet someone with similar qualities is to try and meet someone at the events where you are doing the things you like to do. For example, if you do charity work for the environment you might be able to meet someone in the same organization, that way you know the two of you share at least one thing in common.
One word of caution though, you don’t want a carbon copy of you. That would get boring. What you do want is a little overlap but also plenty of differences. It’s nice at the end of the day for both of you to be able to share with the other your unique experiences of the day. If you have some things unique to each of you, you can share that with your partner which will create a new level of bonding.
Use these tips as a way to make sure that you can say you are compatible with my boyfriend. Compatibility is a wonderful thing in a relationship. Don’t think that the two of you have to be verbally sparring and at odds all the time to keep the relationship interesting. Having someone who ‘gets you’ is an amazing way to go through life. Try it, you’ll like it!